From Inside Out
Hi everyone, Happy belated Australia Day. I hope you all enjoyed your day, whether it was spent celebrating the day with family and friends, relaxing or doing something you love. I feel so much gratitude and lucky to be living in this beautiful country of ours. I spent part of mine catching up with friends I hadn't seen in a long time. It was so nice to connect again and it felt like no time had passed since we had last seen each other.
I hope you all got to do some meditation since my last blog and you are enjoying it. If not at least trying to persevere with it and finding the right one for you. It will help you. Finding stillness within takes time and practise and needs to be done daily.
Today I would like to talk about the situations we find ourselves in whether it be work, home or socially and how we relate to others and our expectations and reactions. These expectations may be ones we are wanting of others or even put on ourselves.
It is about realising how we cope and our reactions to others and the situations at hand. I think in most situations people find themselves in that are going badly we automatically want someone to blame and that is not necessarily ourselves. I am not saying that we should accept poor behaviour from someone or that we are the total cause of them behaving badly. I am saying that we sometimes need to reflect on ourselves and see if we have contributed to the reaction or could the situation have been handled better from both parties.
We also need to be mindful that we do not know what is going on all the time at every moment in somesones life and vice versa. We are as humans also so quick to make a judgement or opinion about someone by the way they behave. I also think in some situations we don't like what we see in that person because it may be a behaviour or an opinion we have seen in ourselves in the past. Now obviously I am not talking about serious criminal offences here, I am talking about everyday reactions in relation to interactions with others.
I think it is important, courageous and honest to be able to look at ourselves deeply within to see why we react to others and situations in certain ways. Why we treat people a certain way and not necessarily sometimes very nice and think it is OK. Or why we let people treat us in the way they do and we keep forgiving time and time again and then when it happens again we act surprised and hurt. Sometimes the person who is treating us badly may be in a position of power and we feel we cannot do anything about it. Wrong. We all have choices and we can choose to be continually treated this way or we can take action and speak to them about it privately or report it higher up if it continues.
Sometimes the person who is treating you badly may be a friend and think it is OK as you keep forgiving them and they keep doing it. Eventually it all comes to a head and can end very badly. The purpose of this weeks blog is to see if you can look at yourself internally to see if you are happy with yourself and your behaviour towards others. Do you love yourself? When I ask that, I don't mean in an egotistical way, where you think you are better then everyone else but in a kind loving way and coming from a humble place.
How many times do we accept being treated badly as we think we have no other choice. How many times do we keep accepting this from certain individuals and then it all blows up in our faces, as we start treating others and them the same way. Sometimes we learn bad behaviour from others and think well if you are going to treat me like that I will treat you like that in return as we want to give them some of their own medicine back or we think that they will see the light and error of their ways and they will change. In some situations we may have to see that person regularly whether it be at work, socially and even family events.
Therefore if you look honestly at yourself from within and see if you are treating people how you like or expect to be treated then you get a better perspective. If of course you are perfect all the time and feel you do no wrong then maybe you could ask another person for their opinion as long as you are prepared to hear the truth. If you look at yourself with honest reflection and see there are things you can change that you do not like, then congratulations you are seeing that there is room for improvement and willing to accept you can be a better person.
I am not coming from a place of judgement and saying it is OK to have people treat you badly and vice versa. What I am trying to teach is, if we start learning to know ourselves and triggers that cause us to react in a certain way to others, events or situations, we can take a step back and think before we react. Once you have reacted it is too late to take back or change what has been said and in some cases can have devastating consequences.
How many of us have been in a situation and later gone over it a thousand times in our head of how it played out and different scenarios if we had reacted differently and then we beat ourselves up over it for hours, days, weeks, months and even sometimes years.
The thing is we are all here to learn and life is going to be full of ups and downs and we are going to be tested by the situations we find ourselves in. However if we learn to know ourselves deeply as much as we want to know others we will have better relationships with new people we meet, our loved ones, family and friends. If we work on ourselves, we will attract the right people to us and situations. We become positive and continue to attract more positive good things. If we want to operate from an ego perspective that we are right and we are not at all at fault we will find we will continue to attract more negative situations. It is all about balance and the first step is honest self evaluation.
What is inside of you will reflect out into the world. Are you happy with what you are sending out into the world and onto others? So please spend some time looking deeply at yourself doing a honest self evaluation in a kind loving way. Is there anything you would like to change?
Have a fabulous week everyone. I look forward to connecting with you all next week. Please feel free to comment on my posts. I would love to hear how you are all going. Please also share my page with anyone you may feel would benefit from my blogs and the work that do.
Love Heids xo